Have you heard of “cognitive distortions” or “maladaptive thoughts?”  These are common information processing errors.  Below is a list of the 10 most common cognitive distortions from David Burn’s The Feeling Good Handbook.  You’ll probably recognize some of these thought patterns, but hopefully you don’t use them often!  They can lead to poor self esteem, hopelessness, helplessness, and depression.

Familiarize yourself with these cognitive distortions and try to recognize them in your own thinking over the next few days.  If you notice a strong tendency to engage in these thinking patterns, please consider buying the book and working through the program!

ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING: You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.

OVERGENERALIZATION: You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

MENTAL FILTER: You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker of water.

DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE: You reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experience.

JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS: You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.

  • Mind Reading: You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to check this out.
  • The Fortune Teller Error:  You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already-established fact.

MAGNIFICATION (CATASTROPHIZING) OR MINIMIZATION: You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick.”

EMOTIONAL REASONING: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.”

SHOULD STATEMENTS: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.

LABELING AND MISLABELING: This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a louse.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.

PERSONALIZATION: You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event, which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.

Burns, David.  (1980).  The Feeling Good Handbook, New York:  Harper.  pg. 42-43.

Even though this is an older book, I still find it the most useful in my clinical practice for explaining these concepts and providing tools for changing maladaptive thoughts.

Cognitive Distortions & Maladaptive Thoughts

 

daily routineToday, I want you to reexamine your daily routine.  Hopefully, you’ve become more aware of the rhythm of your day since reading Establish a Morning Ritual, Bookend Your Day, and Establish a Bedtime Ritual!

Are you taking good care of yourself?  Below are a few core components; choose one area to focus on today!

  • Eat regularly and healthily–don’t starve or stuff yourself!  Have a Good Food Day!
  • Try to plan your schedule so you’re not rushed all day.
  • During the productive part of your day, try to stay focused and on task.  Avoid time wasters and unnecessary multitasking.
  • Make a conscious shift from the “productive” part of your day to the “relaxation” or “family time” part of your day.
  • Engage in physical activity for at least 10 minutes.  Bonus for 30 minutes or more!
  • Dedicate time for relaxation and leisure activities.
  • Take time to wind down at the end of the day.  Use good sleeping habits–Clean Up Your Sleep Hygiene!

Which area(s) are you refocusing on?

Make time for funToday, I want you to schedule something fun for the weekend!

Even if you’re struggling with depression, it’s important to do something you enjoyed when you weren’t depressed (that’s the “behavior” part of cognitive-behavioral therapy).

It can be something simple (see a movie, read a book) or more elaborate (a DIY project or gathering with friends), but dedicate and protect that time.

It’s important to make, and keep, this commitment to yourself.  An important part of this Daily Shoring tip is giving yourself something to plan and look forward to–these are mental processes that are good for your emotional health!

Want to share what you’re planning?

 

learn to relax

Relaxation is a critical part of stress management.

The “relaxation response” helps counteract the physical toll of daily stress–it decreases heart rate, muscle tension, and the release of stress hormones, as well as improving sleep and immune functioning.  By practicing daily relaxation, you’re better equipped to deal with stress because you’re starting from a calm baseline.

The type of relaxation I’m focusing on today is different from leisure activities like television–the relaxation response focuses on deep breathing and muscle relaxation.  Here are a few suggestions:

Easy:

  • Remember the diaphragmatic breathing you learned in Add A Healthy Habit and Improve Your Stress Response?  Practice your deep breathing for a minute or two, several times throughout the day, and add some shoulder shrugs/neck rolls to release stress in your neck and shoulders.  Even a minute or two a few times a day can make a big difference!

Moderate:

  • Dedicate 15 minutes today to the relaxation response–spend 5 minutes on gentle stretching of your neck and shoulders, then ten minutes on deep breathing.  Try to think positive thoughts.
  • Or, if you prefer, here’s a 10 minute Guided Relaxation session, posted by Ekhart Yoga on youtube.  She sits up during the video, but you may prefer to lie down.
  • Progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) is another great way to elicit the relaxation response–click here for a 10 minute PMR tutorial posted by innerhealthstudio.com on youtube.

Challenging:

Try to fit daily relaxation into your routine–it’s worth it!

Variety is the spice of life, so make a conscious effort to try something new today!

Easy:

  • Try a new food
  • Watch a new TV show
  • Listen to a new type of music

Moderate:

  • Change a daily routine.  Research shows that changing routinized habits is good for your brain–a new activity stimulates formation of new neural connections.  Suggestions:
  1. Brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand
  2. Take a different route to work/school/errands

Challenging:

When is the last time you pushed yourself out of your comfort zone?